New York City, 2013

Hello, hello! As promised, I haven't blatantly abandoned this blog. But I have had quite a while to think -- after all, I've been gone fourteen days. Fourteen days of traveling and living out of a suitcase and spending countless hours talking and interacting and living. I went to New York to see Nicole, and then Portland/Vancouver to see Rachael. To say the least, I am worn out (but didn't I expect that?) It gave me a lot of time to live without the computer at my right hand; especially in regards to blogging/reading other blogs/editing photos. Sharing my troubles about this blog with Nicole was beneficial for me because, as someone who has been a part of the blogosphere, she knows where I am coming from with my concerns. In fact, talking with her about all of it really helped me to see my problem with perspective.

I know I can get worked up; it's easy for me to make my whole life about blogging and about who I am with it and without it. But I realize it's important for me to separate myself from this blog -- I am not this blog. I think that it's difficult for me to separate myself from Missing Lovebirds because I am constantly seeking identity; in something, in someone, in anything. This is a flaw. If you can believe it, I wrote my college essays about seeking AND FINDING my identity in this blog. That just goes to show you how interwoven I am with it. I see it as my worth and all my worth. It's crappy. I don't like feeling this way. 

But like I said, being away for a bit has given me perspective and it has been an encouraging few days. I've discovered that part of the reason I don't want to blog about personal style anymore is because it feels like an uphill battle -- constantly trying to put together a more interesting outfit. And this means that simplicity is out of the question. But simplicity is where my style is going. I am wearing more black, more jeans, more solids, and (let's be real) my docs everyday. I just don't want to keep feeling like I have to prove myself. I want to be free.

I have a lot to say. Sometimes I forget that. I want to reel that in -- I want Missing Lovebirds to be mine again; to be something for myself. As one commenter said, a diary of sorts. It will be nice to practice my writing. I'm bad at being concise as you'll find out; and on the other hand, I'm great at rambling. That all being said, I don't want to make any promises about anything, but for now I'm just going to take it one post at a time, how's that?


  1. My style seems to be veering in the same direction as yours. Boots, Jeans, Stylemint-type shirt. Madewell dresses. Personally I'd love to see your simple style. Just as worth it as a complicated style in my opinion!

  2. Lady, good for you! i think we all hit little bumps in the road with our blogging. i will have to say my situation was very similar. i started out wanting to be a fashion blog, and sharing my daily outfits. i soon came to find that it just wasn't me. i felt like there was just no point to it, and that what i was wearing wasn't interesting enough to draw an audience. (back when i cared about an audience) i soon found that i had completely lost myself, and that what i was blogging felt dishonest. i wasn't sharing anything important. that is when i decided i wanted to write, and share my photography. not just silly pictures of myself everyday. don't get me wrong, i LOVE your outfit posts, and i love a lot of people's, but hearing what people have to say.... what they are going through, what they think is important. just day to day rambling... that is the most interesting. it's real.

  3. I'm so excited to see where you'll take Missing Lovebirds! You're definitely one of my favorite bloggers, and whatever you do, I'll love. :)

  4. Nice! Beautiful photos! Looking forward to future posts! xoxox

  5. I think personal style blogs are interesting, but I always follow who I end up following not because they dress cute, but what they write along with pictures of their outfits. My favorite blogs always are lifestyle blogs, so posts like these about trips or special nights with friends, etc. are my favorite.

    Like, you said, you shouldn't feel the need to prove yourself to your followers! I get like that sometimes, where I'm like, "Maybe if I did this or wrote this way or posted more pictures, I would have more followers." I start to think people liking my blog is the same thing as people liking ME. And then I slap myself because I'm completely missing the point of having a blog. It's easy to fall into that kind of thinking though.

    BUT YOU DO YOU. I like you (even though I don't know you and we've never had a conversation, but whatever), so I'll probably stick around regardless of what you do.

  6. One post at a time. That sounds great. Good luck for everything, Elanor.

  7. Looks like you had fun the past couple weeks! And yeah, I totally relate to the rambling :p

  8. This is awesome. I feel the same way about getting too comparative with my blog in relation to other blogs. As I've gotten more involved in the blogging world, I've started to feel more and more pressure for better posts with better pictures and better writing and I started to lose my interest and that hurt. I do love my blog and the people I met. It's not about followrs or views, it's about me practicing my craft and creating a record of my life for me and not others. I took a wee break too and now I feel like I'm back to blogging for me and less for everyone else. Great post and I'm glad to see you back in any way on this blog :)

    Tightrope to the Sun


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